Christmas of 2018 was enjoyable, asides taking a visit to North Carolina and Virginia, I additionally received items. Included in my reward parcel, was this life-changing e book known as “my good friend concern” by Meera Patel.
My good friend concern is each a private narrative and a guiding e book about overcoming concern by embracing it.
As a Nigerian, I used to be apprehensive in regards to the title of the e book (how can concern be my good friend) however felt I ought to give it a attempt as a result of I fell in love with the e book cowl design. A fast flip via the e book and I used to be drawn in by the colour selection of the illustrations, and quick paragraph textual content that adopted.
The author opens with an fascinating quote from Epictetus “first, say to your self what you’ll be; & then do what it’s important to do”. I discovered the quote a succinct option to ease into the concept of concern being a good friend, and in addition a merging abstract theme of the e book.
Concern is all the time the projection of the unknown, and the e book highlights the alternative ways we get to just accept it, and the influence it has on us dwelling freely. “We’re born fearless. We’re born free”, however as we start to reside our lives, we be taught concern from those that love us, and we attempt to mould ourselves into their imaginative and prescient for us, in different to be accepted and understood.
There are various kinds of concern, and Meera paints a transparent image of how in every part of our journey, the choices we make or don’t are decided by how nicely we deal with our fears. Nevertheless, she makes a case for ‘concern’ and pins it on our notion of life via tradition.
“I do know the place fears got here from, but it surely doesn’t imply grappling with them is simple. Fashionable tradition paints concern as a darkish, highly effective factor that has the power to regulate us-but concern isn’t the true wrongdoer right here. It isn’t concern that tells us to vary who we’re–it’s our culture-the indicators, voices, and messages we’re surrounded by”. (pg, 34)
Transferring forward, I cherished the tone of the e book, very therapeutic, damaged down childlike illustrations, but with a story of a grown grownup”. The selection of crimson and inexperienced undertones is catchy and simply interpreted as the author’s uncooked feelings. There’s additionally a tutorial underpinning one can’t ignore whereas studying the e book, the author selection of laying out the “principle of primary emotion” to point out that concern is human, and everybody has them. Additionally, on the finish of the e book, the writer gives references, for quotes, and different works that impressed her.
There’s a lot to speak about how good this e book is, however I’ll allow you to attempt it your self (accessible on Amazon here). Prior to now few months, I’ve taken inspiration from Meera’s writing to caption my Instagram put up. Her work is therapeutic and is a really helpful learn. Under is a quote from my commencement caption;
“Essentially the most stunning folks now we have identified are those that have identified defeat, identified struggling, identified battle, identified loss, and have discovered their approach out of the depths”.
That mentioned, this put up is just not an AD! E book evaluations have been on my content material purview for some time now, and I’m excited I get to beat my anxiousness and concern (hey Meera, see what I did right here) to do a e book overview, kicking off with “my good friend concern”. Discover out in regards to the writer here
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